The "Devaluation" in the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle

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We enter the second and longest stage of the narcissistic abuse cycle, with the devaluation stage.

This is where all manner of insults and physical/psychological manipulations occur toward the more mature, virtuous partner.

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Last month we learned how “Love-bombing” is the seductive act of tricking you into a connection to the narcissist called the “Trauma bond,” like the handsome vampire that walks in the room, a Twilight vampire like Robert Pattinson. You can’t resist the looks and the appearance of desire, love and faux-admiration and flattery.

“Devaluing” is the act of abusing you, and as Andrew Gilroy says, “Getting out the popcorn to watch you fall down into the deep end of destruction that they caused.”

It is the true meat that the monsters of lore feed on in order to stay alive. It is the “Supply” of the narcissist they refer to on social media, and is precisely and vividly depicted in vampire lore as the “blood” of others that the vampire drinks just in order to barely go on staying alive…

…until he reaches the depletion and thirst that necessitates seeking out another “victim” whose blood he will drink.

That “blood”